My birth family was very good at apologizing. Course, we're all a bunch of hotheads so there were plenty of opportunities to practice. LOL But we DID apologize. It was an expectation. If you blew up at somebody, or said something without thinking, or even accidentally hurt someone with your words, you apologized. We were taught that apologizing was what decent people did. It was the right thing to do. I guess rather than criticizing others who were not taught so well, maybe I should focus more on being grateful that, usually, apologizing is something I do not find difficult.
OK, that being said, why on Earth has Barak Obama not apologized for saying that Officer Crowley (of the "beer summit") had "acted stupidly?" He has said he regrets having said that. Well OF COURSE he regrets it. He's been widely criticized for the remark.
And, he even said he had miscalibrated his words. Oh please, Mr. President. Was this about calibration of words? (interesting new use of the word calibrate, btw)
Without weighing in on whether or not racial profiling was involved, or whether or not his friend was wrong, he could so easily say the following:
"I want to apologize to Officer Crowley and all law enforcement officers. My remark showed insensitivity to the dangers and challenges of the job. I very much regret having said it and I am sorry."
Is it because people feel that an apology makes them vulnerable? I guess, in a way, it does. And for those growing up in certain homes an apology might indeed be unsafe.
But if President Obama made even an apology like the one I have suggested, I think he could only gain. People respect an apology. The willingness to admit one made a mistake (and not just a mistake of calibration, whatever that means) shows character. It shows personal strength and leadership. I think President Obama has been hurt by the whole episode and his response to it.